The February issue of the major journal American Sociological Review contains a study that answers the question: who has more sex in marriage? People who divide chores equally or those who divide them on gender lines?
The answer is “gender display” trumps “gender equality” in terms of sexual performance.
At the heart of marriage is sex difference. I would argue at the heart of female sexuality is a sense that men are protectors and providers not exploiters. This doesn’t justify trampling your wife’s career dreams. It means that gender neutral-ness is a recipe for relative asexuality: