The recent issue of Salvo Magazine (available here on their website) features an interview with Maggie Gallagher, in which she touches on her personal experience, what brought her into the marriage debate, and why it is so important. A few excepts:
On her experience as a single mother:
What I learned is perfectly obvious: it’s extremely challenging for the mothers. There’s no way that, as a single mother, you can compete on an equal footing with married men or childless women in the workplace. The demands on you as a mother are extremely challenging because you don’t have the same support network. And you have enormous financial as well as emotional obligations.
You can certainly be a good enough mother to raise a decent, loving, and good human being. Lots of single mothers do that. But you can’t possibly do as good a job as two parents–a mom and a dad working together. And even if you’re a great single mom, your children are going to suffer losses because their father’s not there for them.
On what she would say to Christians who oppose gay marriage, but have difficulty with discussing it:
I tell people it’s very simple, really. Marriage is the union of husband and wife for a reason. These are the unions that make new lives and connect children to their mother and father. Same-sex unions are not marriages. That’s the problem. The problem is not that we want to ban gay people from doing anything. This is not the kind of union that can fulfill, under any circumstances, these purposes of marriage. They don’t do what marriages are designed to do. When a man and a woman join in a marital union, that act protects children, because it means they will not be creating fatherless children across multiple households.
If two guys in a union are a marriage, then marriage is not about bringing mothers and fathers together for children anymore.
On supporters of traditional marriage being labeled “bigots”:
There are too many of us to stigmatize unless we agree with their opinion of us that we’re hateful and bigoted for saying marriage is the union of a husband and a wife. And if they can get us to just be quiet and shut up and stop standing up for the biblical understanding of marriage, then they will succeed in creating a society where we’ll have to be ashamed of Genesis.